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Tuesday, February 7

Dumper or Dumpee?

This morning on the way to work the morning crew on the radio were saying that today is "National Dump your Significant Jerk Day" and they were asking if you're a dumper or a dumpee. It reminded me of a boyfriend that I'd completely forgotten about when I wrote my How We Met story. It reminded me of him because he was the only person to ever dump me.

Pete was the friend of my girlfriend's boyfriend and, in retrospect, I think I was set up with him for convenience sake. He was a very nice boy as far as my parents were concerned. He came from a good family, had a part-time job and was a jock. Tall and blonde and always polite, he made a very good impression on my parents. We went out together for about three months. Most of our dates involved the drive-through for fast food and then making out on his parent's living room couch. I had never had a boyfriend and I was completely clueless. He lived in North Bay and I was a naive country girl. He told me that he had just broken up with a long-time girlfriend and I'm pretty sure he went back to her after he dumped me. He called me one night and told me it was over. I cried my heart out for a few days and then totally got over it. There definitely wasn't huge chemistry between us but it was fun while it lasted.

So are you a dumper or a dumpee? Tell me your dump stories. *grin*


Blogger kim (weltek) said...

I don't think I've ever been dumped. I've persued someone & had them not interested, though.

I've formally dumped a guy once, and informally pushed a short-term relationships away. That was shitty of me. I was too chicken to just say it.

Most of the time it was a mutual growing apart/disinterest.

Tue. Feb. 07, 11:09:00 a.m. EST  
Blogger mm said...

I was dumped once, and it sucked! I've never really dumped anyone, but I've had to stop things from going anywhere, a few times.
I would be awful at really dumping someone, if I thought it would hurt their feelings.

Tue. Feb. 07, 12:32:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Bravie said...

I have only been dumped once and it was the grandaddy of all dumps. I won't get into details but it was the dump that brought me to my knees and formed me into the untrusting person that I am today.

As far as me and Michelle? I have no doubt that if we were to split it would be because I am a jerk and a bad girlfriend and she would dump me. I would never leave her.

Tue. Feb. 07, 12:39:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Bravie said...

p.s. I received you envelope. Loved the pictures. LOVED THEM.

Tue. Feb. 07, 12:40:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger ~Nutz said...

I have had a mutual separation, been dumped & then dumped another. Sooo... I guess I've seen it all? That was all in my story.

Tue. Feb. 07, 12:41:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger thndrkttn said...

I have *been* dumped and I *have* dumped.

The ex-fiance dumped me. Single most painful thing I have ever been through but THANK GOD he did.

The one I feel most badly about dumping is my college boyfriend, Justin. We dated for 2 years, I cheated on him, convinced him to take me back and then dumped him six months later. *cringe*

Tue. Feb. 07, 02:19:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Swami said...

I've dumped a few guys, divorced one (the ultimate dump), and had a couple of mutual or due-to-circumstances partings. I have only been seriously, painfully, left-standing-there-crying dumped once. It was not fun. And he was a very nice, tall, blonde, polite guy too.

In retrospect I can see that he totally used me. While I kind of thought he was two-timing me, we had never really agreed to be exclusive (altho I was, being serially monogamous by nature.) Turns out he was three-timing me. At least.

I should have dumped him long before he dumped me - but I luved him so, lol.

I saw him once a few years ago and I crossed the street before he saw me. I SO did not want to have a lame "hey-how you doin'?" chat with him. Tom knows who he is and sees him in the skyway once in a while.

Tue. Feb. 07, 02:21:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Bravie said...

Who could dump Tkit. Stupid man.

Tue. Feb. 07, 04:32:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger momma said...

Generally speaking, I've been the dumper. I can only think of one serious relationship that I was dumped and I'm not going to get into the 3-4 week "relationships" in junior high and high school. Nick was the only real serious one to dump me and it hurt - badly. But I am so very grateful for that entire relationship and even the ending - I learned more about myself and what I needed out of a relationship because of him and much of the same can be said for him. I also learned that guys really do treat women they care for properly. I ran into him about 6 months after we split, we hung out for a day, slept together that night, thanked each other for everything the next morning and went our seperate ways.

Tue. Feb. 07, 07:57:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger lights said...

Boys can be very stupid at times.

Tue. Feb. 07, 07:59:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger lights said...

Carey, I'm glad you got the envelope and enjoyed the pics. Star (aka big fat cow) helped me pick out the paper. *giggle*

I was thinking about that "left-standing-there-crying" dump that you were talking about and it made me think about my friend who's husband left her. I'll never forget the pain I saw in her that night and I hope that I never have to experience it. Sorry if this topic brought up any bad memories for anyone.

Tue. Feb. 07, 08:04:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Bravie said...

LOL. Big Fat Cow did a great job.

Tue. Feb. 07, 10:40:00 p.m. EST  
Blogger Schnookie said...

I was usually the dumper but have also been the dumpee. Some were painful but nothing too serious. It was usually just my ego that was hurt the most.

Wed. Feb. 08, 11:18:00 a.m. EST  

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